Pastor Marcus Blair, Cornerstone Baptist Church
The mouth will speak whatever is in a person’s heart. Sometimes they may try to hide it, but eventually, whatever is inside a person – whatever they are filled with – is going to show up in their speech. Isn’t that an easy principle to understand? Just imagine that your heart is a big jar, and whatever it’s full of, it will spill out of the mouth. People fail to notice what’s in their mouth because they fail to notice what’s in their heart.
I always hear preachers giving sermons around Thanksgiving on thankfulness and gratitude. And while I am going to talk about having an attitude of gratitude, I’m going to concentrate on something that is a huge poison in the lives of many believers. It has hurt and split many churches over the years. It tears up families, destroys relationships, and makes many lives miserable.
It’s murmuring and complaining. Don’t get me wrong: sometimes complaints are justified. But some folks live and wallow in a mindset where everything is wrong, nothing is right, everybody is out to get them, and they generally have something bad to say about anything that happens. It’s a sad way to live. Bitterness is a poison that spills from our heart, out of our mouth, onto other people. And it’s not what God wants for us.
Negativity is very, very hard to overcome, once it has taken over your heart and started to spill out of your mouth. It’s so easy to moan and complain about life, and just about anything in it. Some people are never satisfied, no matter how good it goes for them. And when their heart is empty, you’ll hear the emptiness in what they talk about. When the heart is full of material things, out of their mouth, all you will hear is the desire for more and better things. That’s all they’ll talk about. But when someone’s heart is full of Christ, that’s what will be coming out of their mouth, in their speech. Jesus will be filling that person, so of course, Jesus is spilling to the outside.
That person speaks blessing into your life, not a curse, not negativity, not complaint, not ingratitude. This person brings life with the words they say. But there are many folks out there who don’t bring life from their mouth, do they? It’s all death and gloom, because their heart is all eaten up with bitterness. And out of their mouth comes destruction, the proverbs say. No one wants to be around a negative, bitter person like that!
People destroy marriages and other relationships by constant negativity. They never have a good thing to say about their spouse. But the Bible tells me, “Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing.” She’s a blessing from God. If you slander your wife, you’re saying God did a poor job. “Children are a heritage from the Lord.” There’s times I’m not happy with them, but that doesn’t mean I have to tear them apart and destroy them with negativity, does it? If you are a constant complainer, you’re going to need mind renewal from the Lord on this subject.
1 Thess. 5:16-18
How many circumstances should be thankful in? All of them. This is God’s will – thankfulness and gratitude no matter what is happening to me or around me. When you have a lifestyle of grumbling, bellyaching, and complaining, you are not in God’s will.
Do all things without grumbling, All of them. When we grumble and complain, we are poisoning the well around us and God doesn’t want us to use our words that way. Thankfulness is God’s will, but grumbling is not. Simple and plain, isn’t it?
The challenge from God’s Word is clear: we need to practice some restraint. We need to listen to ourselves and the way we speak. If nothing but poison and darkness is coming from our mouths, it’s time to find a new way to talk, or not speak at all. Fortunately for us, God will help us with the problem of murmuring and complaining. Since it is God’s will that we all be thankful and not be complainers, he is already on our side in this endeavor. He will provide the Holy Spirit to aid us as we seek to have a heart filled with light, that causes light to spill out of our mouths.
Be a blessing with your words today!